How to overcome AA

Approach Excitement


We can all relate. There you are walking down the street, you see that hot girl and you want to approach her, speak to her and hopefully get her number. But then a million and one excuses come up as to why it’s a bad idea. When I first started I suffered from such a level of anxiety that even the thought of asking an attractive woman for directions terrified me. Looking back now I realise that I was my own worst enemy. I now understand that I was rejecting myself and not the woman through my failure to approach. A lot of guys perceive rejection to mean, going over to a girl and not getting the response you hope for. In my opinion rejection is to not approach the hot girl!

So now I am sure you are thinking, how do I overcome this limiting emotion? Having gamed on the streets of London – With six years of direct street game experience which includes coaching scores of clients, helping them overcome this corrosive attitude, I feel that I am uniquely placed to offer a unique insight on this spectrum. Below I have listed a few basic rules that I recommend.

Rule number 1 – Getting in state – Being in the right mindset, warming up. I like to get into what I term the ‘Zen State.’ I class this as a state of focus that incorporates a total togetherness of body and mind.

Rule number 2 – Starting Small – Set short term goals. Rome was not built in a day. Similarly you cannot expect to overcome years of negative thinking in one session/approach. We believe in setting small goals to give yourself a challenge during the day. This can be something as simple as approaching and complimenting five women.

Rule number 3 – There is no silver bullet – There is no set cure to overcome initial wariness about approaching random strangers. It is only through initiating interactions with a large number of women that you will get closer to controlling your emotions.

Rule number 4 – Being Decisive – Decisiveness is an essential aspect of manliness. No woman desires a man who cannot decide what he wants in a relationship.

Rule Number 5 – Accept Yourself. – This is a crucial aspect of what is termed as ‘inner game. ’There is nothing wrong in being afraid. It is a completely normal human emotion that every man has to deal with.

Rule Number 6 – Overthinking – A key aspect that leads to approach anxiety is overthinking. For example you see a hot girl and instead of automatically approaching her that little voice in your head says ‘I want to speak to her but….’. There are many ways where over thinking about women/dating limits you. In order to improve your chances of dating women there has to be a shift in your thought pattern


Johnny Berba,