Do pickup techniques really work on girls?

As most guys starting out learning game and desperate to get laid, I was completely sceptical as to whether these pua techniques actually worked. I think it's just human nature to doubt pretty much anything new or just to doubt ourselves in general. I was like a complete pua fanatic starting out, I watched YouTube videos on anything to do with picking up girls and the quickest way I could achieve this. Well like everything it requires time and effort which these days is something that human beings lack. Before I start let me just briefly tell you how bad I actually was when I first started out talking to women in clubs and on the street, hmm I WAS so fucking nervous to be honest, my stomach used to turn and my words would come out faster then usain bolt!!! Not to mention my body language, well let’s just say it was that of a very socially awkward young man.



I'm no big fan of pua routines and weird stories, no offence to Mystery Method by the way as I did learn a lot from his method and some of the principles I uphold in my current game today serve me very well and I teach to my students, so props to the man himself. I will start off by giving a quick example of technique: let’s say I join a boxing gym and I want to learn the basic four punch combinations right, you know the good old jab, cross, hook and uppercut, of course you do. So I go into the gym and an experienced trainer comes along and takes me on the mats and shows me how to throw the basic four punch combinations and I kind of think I understand it right? Wrong! You know why? Because when I go and step into the ring to spar with a guy more experienced than me I try and throw a punch at him and I'm not even able to hit him once. Well this is like trying a pua technique on a let’s say attractive girl and it does not work for you. We could be very sceptical and say oh well the technique don't work, or we could be realistic and say well maybe there are a number of factors I have to understand here. perhaps my delivery is not quite up to scratch like the left hook I was trying to land on my sparring partner, hmm I think we might be onto something here Joey!!! Did I miss a meeting at the docs? You see I think it's pretty obvious but after all it's never our fault is it, humans eh don't you just love em.



I know through life experience that nothing is that easy, things require time and effort but to just disregard things is a loser’s mentality to be frank, without actually really trying them out. It's like anything over time things change, evolve if you like and people look back and say that is shit!!! The new one is the way forward man. I think so much talk with the Mystery Method today as the pickup community has taken a new direction and I'm not saying that's a bad thing, its awesome the way the community has emerged and all the self development that is taking place around the globe, men bettering themselves. I think people don't like taking responsibility when things go wrong or perhaps they don't get the results they would hope for instantly.

This brings me to the subject of pick up techniques and whether they actually work on women- I would say yes they do actually work if practiced and honed into ones personality. This may sound patronising but it’s just the gods honest truth, you can’t expect miracles over night as one would just read a book then leave his house with a big erection and shag every attractive woman!!! Hmm nice fantasy though guys right, and no I don't have the chat up line that allows you to sleep with every woman you lay eyes on, what I can definitely promise you is with hard work and a little dedication you can bang hot girls and perhaps meet your soul mate and on top of that build up your confidence in pretty much all areas of your daily life. I always say a man with confidence and a decent level of experience with communicating with women can use any pick up technique and it will work accordingly for him. So maybe I have answered your question as to whether pua techniques work on women? Still not convinced yet ok let me continue my fellow daygamers & Nightgamers or coffee shop gamers for that matter. I started out using 100% canned material and at the start none of the fucking stuff worked for me girls rejected me and gave me the kind of looks that would scare a fucking lion.



Let me explain what was not working fellas just to let you know I'm a pua who has no problem telling the "truth" as I believe the truth is what we are all searching for and that to me is worth more than anything including a HB10 MODEL. I was literally terrified to approach women on the street even with all the Guaranteed "pick up lines" so obviously women could pick up on this and as a result they would reject my approach at the time regardless of the pua technique I was using. I think there needs to be some clarity in that even the best pick up lines techniques routines used without the basic fundamentals stand little or no chance of working on a woman let alone very attractive-HB10 with a fucking ego bigger than the ocean. I know what you guys are thinking now; hang on a minute is "Johnny berba" telling us that his techniques don't work unless you have confidence and all the other social skills in tact? Well yes that is why I teach and believe in learning the principles that allow a woman to fall in love with you. I strongly believe that confidence is absolutely key when it comes to meeting & attracting women and pretty much any area of our lives. You might just say then if that's the case then Mr. Smart Arse pua who knows it all why even bother with the pua techniques then? Well let me explain how the techniques actually work once you master them and most importantly understand the principles behind them. Let’s say I teach you the classic pua technique that most of us gamers call Qualification, which in normal terms just means screening a person to see if you see eye to eye and they meet your requirements in regards to general interests and character traits - lets be honest most horny young men will instantly qualify a young attractive woman without even hearing a single word come out of her mouth. So Qualification is a pretty straight forward technique whereby you ask a woman a question in a way that is almost like you’re a buyer who is checking out the product and she is the seller who has to convince you to buy. This may sound very basic well yes one could say it is but for a guy who is a shivering wreck this would require walking over to a woman and having the courage to deliver his question or statement if you like. I think the point I’m trying to make is that to make the technique work effectively you must be congruent at the same time, so for example your voice tonality must be clear your eye contact must be strong and all the sub-communication is naturally coming off then the technique works amazingly.

So guys will ask well how do I get to this stage then I need a quick fix, well practice my friend. The more approaches you do the greater chance you have of succeeding and the better the technique will eventually work. If you think about it guys you are the technique and if you have various issues that are holding you back then you need to bring them to the table and attack them head on baby. It sounds like hard work but believe me it's so much fucking fun once you master the techniques and they become a natural part of your game or personality some might add. Just to have the basic techniques down on paper will be an advantage over the average Joey who has little or no understanding of game when it comes to attracting women if you like. Let me be so kind to give you some of my own basic personal technique based principles that work very consistently on hot women:

. Always tease her at least once in every interaction you have

. Make sure to Qualify her on pretty much anything i.e. so you more of a drinker then or a smoker? she will pick one of these that's a simple technique>

. Make sure you challenge her on something i.e. she says London is boring. You can say I disagree maybe you’re boring; London is awesome so much to do. This is a basic level of challenging a girl’s view on things or her perception.

. Don't seek her approval i.e. start to tell her how great you are and how much money you have. Comes across low value let her brag to you

. Let her talk and listen carefully so you can expand off what she is talking about- this will build comfort and attraction.

. Tell her something you like about her during the interaction. Say it with conviction and you come from a place of strength non-neediness

I could go on and on but you see these are all communication skills but us pua guys put all kinds of names and terms on them when in fact what they are is really just social skills and what I call the language of seduction that both women & men speak very well. I believe that all these pua techniques come from mans experiences whether it’s from old sayings like treat them mean to keep them keen! I think this is something that really does make sense in a man’s life as we know on good source women are not attracted to nice guys or at least they don't resound emotionally to nice guy behaviour. The techniques give us the training wheels as well as the principles and last but not least which most guys forget they build ones confidence because again it takes balls to approach a hot girl and chat her up regardless of what you say.

The "Johnny berba" formula that pretty much guarantees' pua techniques to work for a newbie:

Technique + practice + understanding the principle behind it + it normalising into ones personality + the positive mindset= Success!! Hooray Joey!!

I will add that in the pickup community there tends to be strong views on what works and what does not work but I say it's the man who works the techniques not the technique that works the man. All I’m saying to guys who are starting out in "GAME" don't neglect working on the basic aspects of communication before using the techniques and allowing them to work effectively for you. You will however naturally improve your communication skills with women through using the pua techniques. I will have to add that Daygame is awesome for practicing pua techniques as you have so much choice and there are not many distractions like loud environments making it more difficult to communicate with women and build a genuine connection. I think that we live in society where by things are moving so fast we have an anxiety for fast results even when we shop for clothes in a store everything is fast paced, we want it right now and if we do get it then we become like king kong, arhhhh! man when did chillin the fuck out go out of fashion jeez what kind of way is this to live our lives at 100 miles an hour without seeing the real beauty in life.



You could go to a very philosophical level of Zen! and accept that we are all one and in order to know who I am I must know who you are as I would not be who I am without knowing who you are because we and the universe are all interconnected. This may sound like mumbo jumbo but we are all one, we all share the same insecurities, fears, joys anxieties in our lives so don't think you’re any different although societies conditioning tries to make us feel completely separate from one another when in fact we are all one in this place. That's why I personally love "DAYGAME" and pua as I see the positive aspects of this whole universal movement that guys have created, it's awesome and it has brought man together like the world cup- Football has done over the coming years.



If your new to pick up - game and your concerned as to whether the techniques work then ask yourself how much input have you put in and whether you have all the other stuff around your life sorted out or at least have attempted to go at attacking your issues head on. Practice that motha fucking technique till you’re BLUE in the face because I think you know you can do a whole lot better baby! Hard work and dedication that is the recipe for success, it's that simple really. Let me just remind you that when you’re a complete newbie to the game the techniques will feel unnatural as you’re doing and saying things that are not quite what you’re used to doing. Let’s say you’re over analysing things which is the norm, once you get used to using the techniques you become so much more natural and it will almost feel like you’re not even using them anymore as it will just normalise into your natural personality. When you’re communicating with women they won’t see oh this guy is using magic on me hahah you understand what I'm saying.



Get out there and grab what is yours and stop making excuses for they only hold you back on your happiness not just with meeting & attracting women but your whole life in general.



Johnny Berba pua














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